Living in the Two Hearts

My Spiritual Insights and Musings

Healing begins at HOME…

Posted by Anne Elizabeth on October 21, 2012

Let ME heal you with My LOVE…

In the days ahead, wouldn’t it be a good idea to try and heal those broken relationships before it’s too late? …

As many are aware – or at least for those who have read “My Return Home” series – I am a survivor of verbal abuse. 

What IS Verbal Abuse?

In a “nutshell”, verbal abuse is the tearing down or intimating of another to the point where he/she has no confidence, no feeling of self-worth, and struggles daily with who they are.

It’s an unfortunate thought to think that many people could very likely claim this definition for themselves.

But what’s even more unfortunate,  when someone has had this done to them, they often do the same to another because they can’t control their actions.  It’s this truth, and many others like it, that are discussed in a recent broadcast that I came across – and I’m featuring that below.

It is an Abuser’s Reality – they who were abused (physically or verbally or both) as a child will either, (a) seek out relationships that continue the abuse because they think abuse is “love”, or (b) they become the abuser.  People who fall in this category (Men AND Women), are often unaware – believe it or not – that they have this problem.

So, to start, here is a little survey that you can take to see if you might have been abused OR are a victim of current abuse.  It comes from the author and counselor I’m featuring below:  Survey Says…

Do yourself a favor, take the survey before you continue on with this post, especially if you think this may apply to you… 🙂

Now, on to the radio interview with Leslie Vernick.  The Interviewer:  Jim Daley with Focus on the Family Christian Radio…

I have to admit, when I started listening to this broadcast, I did so mainly out of curiosity.  But as I listened, I started to recognize elements that were similar to my own past.  Suddenly thoughts about my siblings and their struggles AND people I knew who had similar struggles, began to surface.  I started to listen more attentively and asked myself some of the questions that she brought up.

One of those reflective questions that came to me was: those of us who have been abused also struggle with attachments – we don’t want them, that is when they are people.  Things are different, they don’t leave.  People often leave, they have free-will.  People who are abused are quite literally abandoned, even though their abuser(s) are still present, the person they were supposed to be able to TRUST is gone.  So we definitely do not like attachments.

Yet on the positive side, I began to realize how much healing I have gone through, along with what healing still remains.  It was a beautiful time of reflection, though a bit awkward as I was in my local library at the time.  Still, I was able to block out the distractions around me and focus in on the story before me. 

A little something about the presenter: Leslie grew up with an abusive mother, who probably had an abusive mother.  Leslie had to come to terms with WHO she could help, and who she could change.  She also came to the full realization that healing comes when we least expect it, but always when we leave our hearts open to the Creator, the Healer of all wounds, God the Father.

Again, Catherine’s book came full center as it, too, deals with the hurt of the main heroine and how God not only heals her  with His Love, but also with the aid of those He places in her life, primarily in Scott and his family.  

 If you are struggling with an abusive spouse, parent, or friend OR if you are the abuser and you’re lamenting your lack of self-control, this broadcast IS FOR YOU.  

Leslie Vernick

  • Part Iclick Play when you arrive at the site
  • Part II  – click to Play when you arrive at the site

Like what you heard?  Purchase a CD copy for yourself or get the Mp3 here(and no, I will not receive any money back if you do purchase one for yourself or a loved one.  I’m merely passing on a really “good thing”.)

Visit Leslie’s own site if you desire further information…

In the days ahead, it’s a good idea to have the relationships closest to you, HEALED…

So if you are offering your gift at the altar, and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar and go; first to be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift.

Make friends quickly with your accuser, while you are going with him to court, lest your accuser hand you over to the judge, and the judge to the guard, and you be put in prison; truly I say to you, you will never get out till your have paid the last penny.
~Matthew 5: 30-26

And sometimes that HEALING means just being able to say, “I forgive you!” and meaning it…

Then Peter came up and said to Him, “Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me and I forgive him?  As many as seven times?”  Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you seven times, but seventy times seven.” ~Matthew 18: 21-22

Recommended Reading:

The Sun of Justice

What Does it Mean to Be Reconciled?


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