Living in the Two Hearts

My Spiritual Insights and Musings

Answer Questions: In Between things…

Posted by Anne Elizabeth on July 22, 2009

Before I begin with the nitty-gritty (next post):

The Following two questions have presented themselves to me from two different sources.  They are, “Why would I feel it necessary to publish such personal details concerning myself and my family?” and “Isn’t this detrimental to your family situation?” My answers are as follows:

First, the “why” I feel it necessary to tell such a personal story has three levels to it.  The first level deals with the necessary need for healing, as addressed in the first post.  The second level deals with the necessary need to be honest, especially with one’s own self, which I also addressed in the first post.  The third level addresses the universal malformation of too many families in America, which I will address now.

If a dictionary was kept on dysfunctional families, and it included pictures of said families and I KNOW my family would not be the only one.  Too many families have similar struggles of being honest with themselves about the need for healing and reconciliation.  Too many families feel like they are the only ones, so what can be done to help them? We ought to continue with ‘business as usual’. Too many families want to hope their problems will just disappear.

By telling my story in connection with my family, I hope God will use this to reach out to other families who are perhaps tired of their struggles.  Maybe it’s just one of the members who is tired, but I want to encourage THAT member to begin the process of healing, no matter how much it may hurt.  In the end, the hurt will be like the pains of a woman in labor, the pains ALWAYS bring about great joy!  That joy is contagious and will eventually reach others in the family who desire joy… who desire healing.  Healing IS possible for EVERYONE, even if it happens only one person at a time.

The second motive is to address my own family who read this blog.  It’s about time my own family begins their process of healing by first coming to terms with what exists in our family.  This brings me nicely into the second answer of the second question…

The answer is: NO, it is not detrimental, and for the same reasons that I gave in question number one.  For too many years my family has practiced burying their heads in the sand and hoping the problems will just disappear.  The problems have NOT disappeared; in fact, they have increased in number AND in severity.  God began the healing process with me.  Slowly but surely it is moving on to other members.  Prayer has always been part of my practice concerning them but…

Time is OF THE ESSENCE!  Remember the words of Jesus to St. Faustina,

“He who refuses to pass through My door of Mercy must pass through My door of Justice.” Diary§1146

Later in that same diary, Mother Mary said to St. Faustina,

I gave the Savior to the world; as for you, you have to speak to the world about His great mercy and prepare the world for the Second Coming of Him who will come, not as a merciful Savior, but as a Just Judge. Oh how terrible is that day!  Determined is the day of justice, the day of divine wrath.  The angels tremble before it.

I’m NOT saying the Day of Justice is around the corner, but the earth is not our permanent home, and each and every one of us will eventually die and have to face our Savior.

Jesus again reminds us when He taught us how to pray to Our Father, “Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us…For if you forgive men their trespasses, so also will your Father forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive you.~Mt. 6:12, 14

These aren’t JUST WORDS.  Jesus NEVER said JUST WORDS…

I am the bread of life; he who comes to me shall not hunger, and he who believes in me shall never thirst… Truly, truly, I say to you, unless you eat the flesh of the Son of man and drink His blood, you have no life in you; 54 he who eats My flesh and drinks My blood has eternal life, and I will raise him up at the last day. 55 For My flesh is food indeed, and My blood is drink indeed. 56 He who eats my flesh and drinks my blood abides in Me, and I in him. 57 As the living Father sent Me, and I live because of the Father, so he who eats Me will live because of Me.” ~Jn 6: 35, 53-57

Jesus MEANT what He SAID.  So there is NO REASON to doubt that what He says about forgiving others so that we may be forgiven IS TRUE!  But again, going back to the beginning post, there must be understanding AND acceptance BEFORE one sees the need for forgiveness.

Once that need is seen, then accepting and desiring forgiveness follows, beginning with oneself.  If one cannot forgive oneself, one cannot forgive others.  If one cannot love themselves they cannot love another : Love your neighbor as yourself ~ Mt 22:39b

It is IMPERATIVE for my family to take their heads out of the sand and face their mistakes, face what has happened to them through circumstances IN ORDER for them to see the need for healing which will only begin with forgiveness AND reconciliation.

Lastly, I would like to point out one tiny, unmistakable detail… No names are given throughout these writings, no genders beyond the grandparents /brother/sister are given, and NO ACTUAL detail of which set of Grandparents are even mentioned, though I only have one set of siblings.  So, should any of my family members claim insult, I ask:

How could you be insulted?  There are no names, no gender distinctions; nothing to indicate whom is who?  But if you recognize yourself, perhaps that is the first step towards acceptance which can lead directly to forgiveness that takes one on to full healing by the great Mercy of the Savior, Jesus Christ, Son of the Living God.

If you see yourself in any of these writings, take the hint! God brought you here so that He could reach out to you and let YOU know HOW MUCH He LOVES YOU!  How MUCH He so WANTS to HEAL YOU.  Won’t you give yourself that chance… Before it’s too late?

54 He also said to the multitudes, “When you see a cloud rising in the west, you say at once, ‘A shower is coming’; and so it happens. 55 And when you see the south wind blowing, you say, ‘There will be scorching heat’; and it happens. 56 You hypocrites! You know how to interpret the appearance of earth and sky; but why do you not know how to interpret the present time?

57 “And why do you not judge for yourselves what is right? 58 As you go with your accuser before the magistrate, make an effort to settle with him on the way, lest he drag you to the judge, and the judge hand you over to the officer, and the officer put you in prison. 59 I tell you, you will never get out till you have paid the very last copper.~Lk 12: 54-59

And just as it is appointed for men to die once, and after that comes judgment… ~Heb 9:27

Recommended Reading: The Thirteenth Man

Previous Posts:

Healing Begins
Part 3 Continues…
Importance of Reconciliation


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