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The Marriage Act: What is it, why our respect is needed?

Posted by Anne Elizabeth on October 31, 2008

What is marriage?  Is it merely a contract, an exchange of wedding bands, an agreement before a cleric or a judge to love, honor, and obey?  Heavens NO! But that’s what today’s Same-Sex agenda would love us all to believe.  Because if that’s really all marriage is, then why can’t individuals who are attracted to their same sex also be legally married?

A Brief Reminder: Marriage is… the wise institution of the Creator to realize in mankind His design of love… For baptized persons, moreover, marriage invests the dignity of a sacramental sign of grace, inasmuch as it represents the union of Christ and of the Church. (Eph 5:25-33)

So, remembering that Marriage comes from God because it was CREATED BY GOD, what is to follow should be a “no brainer”… at least that’s my hope.

Respect for the Nature and Purpose of the Marriage Act

11. These acts, by which husband and wife are united in chaste intimacy, and by means of which human life is transmitted, are, as the council recalled, “noble and worthy,” (GS§49c) and they do not cease to be lawful if, for causes independent of the will of husband and wife, they are foreseen to be infecund, since they always remain ordained towards expressing and consolidating their union.

In fact, as experience bears witness, not every conjugal act is followed by a new life. God has wisely disposed natural laws and rhythms of fecundity which, of themselves, cause a separation in the succession of births. Nonetheless the Church, calling men back to the observance of the norms of the natural law, as interpreted by its constant doctrine teaches that each and every marriage act (quilibet matrimonii usus) must remain open to the transmission of life.

Two Inseparable Aspects: Union and Procreation

12. That teaching, often set forth by the magisterium, is founded upon the inseparable connection, willed by God and unable to be broken by man on his own initiative,..

…between the two meanings of the conjugal act: 1) the unitive meaning and the 2) procreative meaning.

Indeed, by its intimate structure, the conjugal act, while most 1) closely uniting husband and wife,..

…capacitates them for the 2) generation of new lives, according to laws inscribed in the very being of man and of woman.

By safeguarding both these essential aspects, the unitive and the procreative,..

…the conjugal act preserves in its fullness the sense of true mutual love and its ordination towards man’s most high calling…

…TO PARENTHOOD. (emphasis added)

We believe that the men of our day are particularly capable of seizing the deeply reasonable and human character of this fundamental principle.

Faithfulness to God’s Design

13. It is in fact justly observed that a conjugal act imposed upon one’s partner without regard for his or her condition and lawful desires is not a true act of love, and therefore denies an exigency of right moral order in the relationships between husband and wife. Hence, one who reflects well must also recognize that a reciprocal act of love, which jeopardizes the responsibility to transmit life which God the Creator, according to particular laws, inserted therein, is in contradiction with the design constitutive of marriage, and with the will of the Author of life.

(In other words, use contraception, engage in an act of selfishness in fulfilling one’s own selfish desire for pleasure by not sharing completely oneself with the other.  Without that sharing, life will not have the 100% ability to come into existence as designed by God. Or Use Contracept to decept for your pleasure alone. )

To use this divine gift destroying, even if only partially, its meaning and its purpose is to contradict the nature both of man and of woman and of their most intimate relationship, and therefore it is to contradict also the plan of God and His will.

(Rest assured, you will be held accountable at the hour of your death – cf. Heb 9:27)

On the other hand, to make use of the gift of conjugal love while respecting the laws of the generative process means to acknowledge oneself not to be the arbiter of the sources of human life, but rather the minister of the design established by the Creator.

In fact, just as man does not have unlimited dominion over his body in general, so also, with particular reason, he has no such dominion over his generative faculties as such, because of their intrinsic ordination towards raising up life, of which God is the principle.

“Human life is sacred,” Pope John XXIII recalled; “from its very inception it reveals the creating hand of God.” (Cf. John XXIII, encyc. Mater et Magistra, in AAS LIII (1961), p. 447. )

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All Life is Sacred: Part I
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The Meat of Humanae Vitae
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Characteristic Marks and Demands… Part II cont

Posted by Anne Elizabeth on October 30, 2008

Conjugal Love:  Characteristic Marks of, and Demands of

Its Characteristics

This love is first of all fully human, that is to say, of the senses and of the spirit at the same time. It is [NOT], then, a simple transport of instinct and sentiment, but also, and principally, an act of the free will, intended to endure and to grow by means of the joys and sorrows of daily life, in such a way that husband and wife become one only heart and one only soul, and together attain their human perfection.(cf. Eph 5:26-27)

Then, this love is total, that is to say, it is a very special form of personal friendship, in which husband and wife generously share everything, without undue reservations or selfish calculations. Whoever truly loves his marriage partner loves not only for what he receives, but for the partner’s self, rejoicing that he can enrich his partner with the gift of himself. (1Cor 13:4-8a)

(Question: If you are cut off from one another by the use of contraception – something that prevents contact – how can you truly share everything? Also, by cutting yourself off from the other, are you not practicing selfish calculations because of your use of the other for your own pleasure?)

(FACT: Did you know the divorce rate doubled as a result of contraception becoming accepted an more readily available?  Stands to reason, if you can have sex without worrying about the “consequences”, then why worry about your spouse finding out?  Also, you stop sharing yourself with your spouse, why do you expect them to continue to trust you?)

Again, this love is faithful and exclusive until death. Thus in fact do bride and groom conceive it to be on the day when they freely and in full awareness assume the duty of the marriage bond. A fidelity, this, which can sometimes be difficult, but is always possible, always noble and meritorious, as no one can deny.

The example of so many married persons down through the centuries shows, not only that fidelity is according to the nature of marriage, but also that it is a source of profound and lasting happiness and finally, this love is fecund for it is not exhausted by the communion between husband and wife, but is destined to continue, raising up new lives.

“Marriage and conjugal love are by their nature ordained toward the begetting and educating of children. Children are really the supreme gift of marriage and contribute very substantially to the welfare of their parents.” (GS§50)

Now it’s time we DEBUNK the modern day notion of RESPONSIBLE PARENTHOOD.

Responsible Parenthood

10. Hence conjugal love requires in husband and wife an awareness of their mission of “responsible parenthood,” which today is rightly much insisted upon, and which also must be exactly understood. Consequently it is to be considered under different aspects which are legitimate and connected with one another. (1-4)

In relation to the 1) biological processes, responsible parenthood means the knowledge and respect of their functions; human intellect discovers in the power of giving life biological laws which are part of the human person. (Cf. St. Thomas, Summa Theologica, I-II, q. 94, art. 2)

In relation to the 2) tendencies of instinct or passion, responsible parenthood means that necessary dominion which reason and will must exercise over them. (Reminder: this is NOT Lust! See 2. 2) A change…)

In relation to 3) physical, economic, psychological and social conditions, responsible parenthood is exercised, either by the deliberate and generous decision to raise a numerous family, or by the decision, made for grave motives and with due respect for the moral law, to avoid for the time being, or even for an indeterminate period, a new birth.

Responsible parenthood also and above all implies a more profound relationship to the 4) objective moral order established by God, of which a right conscience is the faithful interpreter.

The responsible exercise of parenthood implies:

…that husband and wife recognize fully their own duties:

a) towards God,
b) towards themselves,
c) towards the family
d) towards society

…in a correct hierarchy of values.

(Get it?  There IS a hierarchy of values that ALL human beings should embrace!  We SHOULD value God, ourselves, family, and then society – and IN THAT ORDER. For if we valued God and our relationship with Him, we would not be able to mortally hurt ourselves, and we certainly wouldn’t be able to mortally hurt those around us -cf Mt 22:36-40.   Strange how our modern society – the culture of death –  is EXACTLY the OPPOSITE. )

In the task of transmitting life, therefore,
they are not free to proceed completely at will,
as if they could determine in a wholly autonomous way
the honest path to follow;
but they must conform their activity to the creative intention of God,
expressed in the very nature of marriage and of its acts,
and manifested by the constant teaching of the Church.” (GS§50,51)

Tomorrow: The Marriage Act: What is it and why does it deserve our respect? (a key question for our society today, yes?)

Previous Posts:

All Life is Sacred
Why Humanae Vitae?
The Meat of Humanae Vitae

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